#be financially literate

[princesscolumbia]

[tw - "r" word]

When I first got married, I had zero concept of the difference between autism, CP, epilepsy, etc. Thanks to the toxicly [insert prefix for anything here]-typical environment I grew up in, everything "not normal" was lumped into one blob and shoved "over there" so "normal" people didn't have to deal with it, and since "normal" people don't have to deal with it, they don't have to learn about it.

(I've got a whole rant about how this relates to Purity Cults, but that'll be for another time.)

When I found out my (then future, now ex) wife had epilepsy, I started learning what I could about it, mostly from her, and keeping myself open to different types of epilepsy and discovering that no, it's not like autism or cerebral palsy or deafness or anything like that. This was my first exposure to my own ignorance of comorbidities and how the world I grew up in slammed a whole BUNCH of people into the category of "retarded" when they may just have been hard of hearing (not even medically deaf) and because they needed "special" attention were shoved into the same class as anyone else deemed "not normal."

(Insert flashbacks to being shoved in the "special ed" class with the low-functioning kids from a variety of neurodivergencies because I was ADHD, undiagnosed, with comorbid clinical depression resulting in a hideous intelligence and zero outlets for it. The teachers were treated as glorified babysitters and had no idea what to do with me because I clearly didn't belong in their class either.)

My ex used to be an Interpreter for the Deaf, which further fractured the previous mental image of neurodivergence that I had, even if I didn't know the words. Deaf people have the same capabilities and challenges that everyone else has...hell, most of them could be considered bilingual given that Sign is often a different language branch entirely from the so-called "parent" language.

(American Sign Language, for example, is based on French and has almost jack and shit to do with British Sign, and that's one example)

When my daughter came along and was at first deemed "developmentally disabled," I only really had memories of the horrible "special ed" class I'd been shoved in, so was panicked that she'd never have a happy, healthy life. The nail in the coffin, it seemed at the time, was when she was diagnosed as autistic. Because of the horrific lack of proper education of what that meant when I grew up, I had a specific picture of what that looked like and it was very, very bad. Said mental picture also did NOT match what I was seeing in my daughter. This was the final blow that shattered my idea of what it meant to be neurodivergent, and it took a couple years, but I finally accepted, literally decades after the diagnosis, that I was ADHD and maybe I shouldn't be beating up on myself for not being "normal enough" and just get my damn meds and start learning how to exist while ADHD.

(I've started having fun with it, I can get done 20 times what an NT person can in a fraction of the time by properly managing my hyper-fixations.)

I now live in a committed relationship with a wonderful girlfriend who's on the autism spectrum and has her own unique, sometimes really neat, often endearing, traits to her ND than what I have or my daughter has. I'm in an online relationship that is very likely to soon turn into an IRL relationship, and they're ADHD and their ND has different and distinct traits.

(Yes, I'm polyamorous. Yes, my life is complicated AF)

My daughter is at the age where "learning compassion" is taking a mental back-seat to "WTF is my body even doing to me and how do I know who, or even if I want to, kiss?!" so I give her some latitude when she expresses how much she doesn't like being lumped in with the lower-functioning kids in her class at the autism-centric school she's in. She knows better than to say it out loud and in the class, but she'll vent about her frustration with "the lower functioning kids" and express her disgust about their lack of control or understanding of their bodily functions. I give her this latitude because her other mother (my ex) is raising our daughter with the same mentality that she was raised with as a child with epilepsy.

(Remember that trigger warning at the beginning? Yeah, you thought I'd already triggered the conditions for it, didn't you? Well, buckle up, it gets very un-pretty at this point)

My ex is about 4 years older than me. If the environment I was raised in was toxic, what with the political situation of Colorado being fairly "purple" by today's metrics and catching the tail-end of the 70s by the time I entered pre-school, my ex was raised in the equivalent to battery acid. See, she had epilepsy, which meant she was "retarded." "Don't expect her to live very long," the philosophy of the doctors in the area and at the time was, "She's probably going to choke on her own tongue in her sleep or convulse her head into the pavement and kill herself during a seizure. Retarded children can't live full, productive lives, just keep her from experiencing enough Life to know what she's missing and make sure her last years are comfortable so when she does pass it's at least not traumatic to you or her siblings."

(I could spill more tea on that family, but I'm trying not to think about it for my own mental health.)

My ex knows better and I can see that she's trying not to perpetuate that particular abuse with our daughter, but she does fall into patterns older than she is quite often, treating our daughter as a "retarded" kid being crammed into a NT mold.

And she genuinely thinks that our daughter only wants to live with me because I'm "the fun parent."

Way way back I drew a comic explaining what we really mean by ‘The Autism Spectrum’ and posted it here back when Tumblr was Huge. Then the comic really blew up!! Last year I did a remake of the comic, with some updated language, and using Mia, a character from a graphic novel I made. Figured I’d share for Autism Acceptance Month!

[chloesimaginationthings]

FNAF Mikes and Vanessas talk about money struggles,,

[hyacinthsdiamonds]

I'm sorry but the irony of Nico calling Max unprofessional is sending me so bad like sir there's an entire garage full of people, who were literally in the trenches trying to survive the Brocedes fallout while just doing their jobs, who might have a few things to say about your (& Lewis') level of professionalism at that time 😭✋️

[kimbapisnotsushi]

haikyuu is NOT realistic!!!! and it's not because of the underdog plotline or the insane athletic skill or funky character designs but because in the timeskip everyone gets a job that they are perfectly content with and more or less suits them to a tee and don't seem concerned for their futures whatsoever all before the age of thirty

[fadeintoyou1993]

well. here i fucking go again i guess i'm sorry i keep doing these y'all. hopefully things will change soon but in the meantime. i had to have dental surgery two weeks ago and while i was planning and budgeting for the extraction of one tooth only, the dr had to remove a second one & now i have a bill that i did not prepare for and i'm like. drowning in medical bills right now because of my assessment i had to take a few months ago (i'm autistic+adhd) and i just. i can't afford it at all. i have no fixed income because finding accessible jobs where i live is damn fucking near impossible, and most of the money i make is through commissions & odd design gigs.

i cannot take up commissions right now, but i have two different premium themes (one, two), free ones & a bunch of other things here. if any of these help you in any way, please consider helping me out? thank you so much.

pp.me / k0f1

$153/280

🥹 please don't tag this as s1gnal b00st as it tends to make the post lose traction. 🥹

[spooksier]

the fact that they *can* quit in protocol is so everything to me because it immediately brings up the question of why the hell havent they? besides lena i don't think anyone has even suggested the idea of quitting the evil nightmare job that they all hate and whenever a way out is presented it's ignored or (shoutout gwen) flat out rejected which is sooo interesting to see after spending a whole 200 episodes following people doing everything they could to escape

[stevethehairington]

everyone i see saying "omg oliver really said eat the rich!!!1!111!!!!" are COMPLETELY missing the point of that movie. it was not an "eat the rich movie", it wasn't about class in that sense AT ALL. it was very much about desire and obsession and consumption. not class!!

[uncanny-tranny]

One of my perhaps unpopular opinions is being a full-time at-home caregiver (to a parent, a child, whomever) should absolutely be considered work and should absolutely be paid like having a conventional job.

Giving caregivers the financial stability and freedom to live as independently as possible is important, especially in terms of being somebody's caregiver. Both the carer and caree deserve to be stable, independent, and have their needs met.

[nevermeyers]

There's absolutely no way people are now saying that all the gege-hate train is just an internal joke of the fandom. There's no way you're this out of touch with what has been happening.

I've been in the fandom since 2020 and it doesn't take a lot of smarts to see there's been a change in tone in the way some people say that in the last year. Since this new arc of history began, destructive criticism, massive hate and threats have overflowed into hundreds of profiles. It's no longer "oh, I hate Gege akutami" now and for a while now it's "I hate Gege akutami - his manga is horrible I'm gonna drop it (they never do) - he doesn't deserve popularity - he doesn't know how to write - he pretends to have an illness."

And yet, it's not normal to make jokes about wanting to kill someone, hon. Go check yourself if you find that funny, you're no better than let's-joke-about-sensitive-issues reddit incels

[3-aem]

help my cat maybe!

okay I was told to just do this even though i hate it.

but as some of you know i lost my job a while back and it happened at the same time that my cat began semi-frequent vomitting like once every other week to multiple times a week. he appears fine otherwise but it has continued on for the last few months and at this point I don’t think i can continue pretending like he is alright.

the bill for a proper scan and diagnosis is around 780 total which is sadly not affordable.

If it is possible kofi donations would be greatly appreciated so I can bring him in for an ultrasound and blood tests 🙏 the lnk is in my pinned

[dragonpyre]

Speaking from experience, going from having very little money to suddenly having a lot, the anxiety around it does NOT go away. I have a decent chunk of change stashed away in multiple places (investments, savings, etc) but on god I could not buy anything over $10 without feeling crippling buyers remorse. Even if I really do need it.

I remember being a kid in 2008 and knowing that buying a candy bar was an expense my family just couldn’t budget for. I remember living on my own in college where I had to choose between gas or food. I remember the first time I needed an oil change I nearly had a panic attack about the cost.

That shit just doesn’t go away

[sukibenders]

Bridgerton states from season one, through Simon and Lady Danbury, to season two, with the Sharmas, to Queen Charlotte, from the beginning episode to the end spelled out clear as day, that racism exists in this world and many of the characters of colors have been impacted by it in some way. And, supposedly, I'm supposed to believe that Marina, that Kate and Edwina, that they all had more privilege and power than Penelope? No, I don't think so, a lot of things aren't right with that statement.

[danandfuckingjonlmao]

so this is why you dressed up nice today like fuck off

[mo-online]

ok but how the fuck did neil josten pay for college??? usually i see the "full ride" argument, BUT YOU NEED PROOF OF RESIDENCY AND YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY'S TAX INFORMATION TO EVEN ACCEPT A SCHOLARSHIP!!!! does this man even have a social security number???? did he bother to get a fake birth certificate??? i'm just picturing him in psu's financial aid office being asked his parents' driver's licence numbers and coming up with the most batshit excuse.

"my parents died over the summer"

"i still need their social security numbers"

"their uhhhh... their cards burnt up in a house fire. licenses too. and w2 information. OH! oh! and mine did too. it was very tragic"

"then i legally can't let you accept your federal financial aid???"

"BUT I WANNA PLAY EXY"

and then the book ends

[fadeintoyou1993]

hi guys. same situation as earlier this month but for november, my dad is a certain amount of money short from the total he has to have to pay off for my grandma's stay at the care home she's in, and as her sole caretaker (she's late stage alzheimer's and physically disabled so it's. A Lot to deal with) he's been struggling to make ends meet and he needs around US$120 to be able to total all of her care by tomorrow or friday at the latest and i cannot help him in any other way but this one lol, so if you're able to help in any way shape or form, i'll thank you forever & help my dad & my grandma out immensely. you can check out my resource blog for anything that might be of use to you, as unfortunately i cannot take commissions at this moment: @userbru

$120/120

pp / kf

pls don't tag this as s1gn4l b00st !!

[wiisagi-maiingan]

I'm gonna be straight with you all, I really don't know how people think that all the fundraiser messages flooding people's notes rn are real and not scams when I just got randomly @'ed by a supposed person looking for help in the replies of someone else's post.

I get that people want very desperately to help, but when the "fundraisers" use blatant scambot techniques for everything they do, at some point you've gotta accept that it's because they're scambots.